the background: Many studies have actually found that love is in fact a drug. The brain responds to the serotonin levels received by interaction with another person. Over time, like drugs, the brain gets addicted to these rushes in chemicals that result in you being in love. So when you break up with someone your brain is literally going through withdrawals. Makes sense right? (We've all been there.)
Some studies hypothesize that these feelings of love were evolution's way of getting the male to stick around, raise his babies and help populate the human race. Of course, this is also the same theory for why men fall asleep after sex.
my pondering: As many of us navigate the sea of love, we may over time, find ourselves to be a little closed off. Constructing a fortress field around our perceived vulnerable hearts. Now, what if said fortress field was evolution's way of helping us survive/cope?
What if 'being dead inside' is our body's evolutionary response at building a tolerance to sexy serotonin so we no longer have to go through such crazy withdrawals next time around? Is that why your first love is always considered the hardest, because there's no tolerance?
Could the lack of produced serotonin explain the commitment issues around relationships? If our brains are not producing (as much) serotonin from the experience, than we're not becoming "addicted" to the person. There's not as much of an investment.
this leads me to: maybe some of us are naturally 'dead inside'?
Gladwell's "The Tipping Point" cited reduced levels of 'ahhh' aka your body reacting to cigarettes and suggesting that some people have a natural (higher) tolerance to things like alcohol and smoking tobacco and hence do no receive the same buzz. Consequently, he argued that some people are predisposed to being addicted to cigarettes because they have a reduced tolerance level. Could this be similar to levels of serotonin in people's brains? Are some of us predisposed to falling in love? Do some of us receive a lighter buzz and therefore, have less of an incentive to fall in love/stick around/make a commitment?
Now maybe the science around this is really science fiction. But I wonder when wanting to find ourselves in the brain of love one day....why is it so hard sometimes to.......feel? Why do other people's break ups seem easier or harder compared to our own?
my last thoughts: What will finally get the walls to come tumbling down, an internal baby clock? Is this nature's back up plan?!
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